Did you know, that "twin flames" are one of the more rare soul connections out there in the spiritual realm? There would be no problem with this, except, that we want this soul connection so badly, that we all begin to believe we've met "THE ONE", or what spiritualists call our "twin flame".
In over 16 years in my work, I've sensed that clients have met their "twin flames" less times than I can count on both hands and feet. This is something that I feel I need to share, not to discourage you, but to enlighten you to the truth about soulmates. Just because you might be feeling all mushy-gushy inside does not necessarily mean you have something that will ultimately last! Here are the types of soul connections I've seen in my experience:
Karmic Connection: This is energetically the lowest frequency of energy that can be shared between two people. The only reason for this connection is for learning purposes, otherwise known as "karma". (I don't believe in karma in the "punishing" sense, but for purposes of lessons we CHOOSE instead to benefit us). The karma could be present between the two people based upon a past life connection wherein one or both partners did not learn a vital spiritual lesson, and perhaps they are meant to meet again in this current lifetime in order to have yet another chance to learn this lesson. However, once the lesson is learned, the emotions normally die out, and the relationship ends. Yes, they are meant to be together, but only for a time.
What normally happens in this type of soulmate relationship, you ask? Well, I've seen that it starts out hot and heavy. The karmic "pull" feel VERY much like "love". The person claims undying love for you in less than a year, treats you like the princess or king you are, and initially it's the most beautiful thing you've ever experienced. You swear on everything that's holy that he or she is IT for you, is THE ONE, is the final slice of bread that will keep your heart full.
And then suddenly, for no reason known, this person gets the hell out of dodge! They pull the Houdini maneuver and you never hear from them again (or if you do, it's only for them to ask for their cds, clothes and valuables). Beware! If you reach out to ask them why more than once they will bare teeth at you, like they are a rabid hyena defending their food (the food in this case being their right to draw a boundary).
The common response I see from the karmic connection partners, when confronted about why they ran off for no reason, is, "You NEED to let me go! Don't you get the hint? I've not called and I've not said anything because it's OVER. Please stop contacting me", or the other response is nothing but silence. You never hear from them again or you hear from them only through your mutual friends.
There is no reason why they ran, and if you try to demand a response for the sake of closure, they only will give the following reason(s):
1) I didn't FEEL it any more for you; I don't know why;
2) We wanted different things in life; or
3) I wasn't ready for a commitment.
When in essence, number one is often true. They do subconsciously stop feeling what you both thought was undying love, because IT WAS NOT LOVE TO BEGIN with. It was merely a "karmic" connection. Number two is often true as well, but the only difference in what you want is that he or she no longer wants YOU.
Number three, I find, is far removed from the truth. In karmic connections, I see this excuse being used very often, but then the next thing you know, you'll see the person whose alleged undying "love" for you has been replaced almost immediately with someone even LESS suited for them than you. Suddenly you're hearing that Casanova is going to marry her! And then before you know it, you hear about their lovely wedding in Vegas and how he or she is happier than they've ever been.
My advice: don't wait on closure. There is no deeply embedded psychological reason for this person to do what they did to you, other than the fact that the relationship was only meant for learning purposes, and was not meant to last after this. Why the undying love, you ask? Well, how else would you have been able to stay with him or her if you didn't FEEL some reason to do so? You felt infatuation that was the result of karma, not love. Let the person go. He or she won't be back. I may be the only psychic brave enough to tell you this, but in more times than not, it's true.
Kindred Spirit Connection: This type of soul connection, in my experience, has been THE most wonderfully successful type of soulmate one can have. The reason is that the love is based upon FRIENDSHIP and respect, as well as attracting each other from more integrated, healed portions of each of you. You won't find any burning flames of love in the initial stages of this relationship, but what you will find is a slowly developing relationship that may take months or years to establish, but then lasts the rest of your life!! It doesn't normally feel all mushy-gushy, like the other types if soulmate connections, and it feels more like being in love with your best friend: comfortable and happy!
You're never left with that empty feeling in your tummy when he/she doesn't call, because you always KNOW where this person is and when he or she will call. This connection is based upon trust and friendship, and then turns into more. Normally, the kindred spirit couple have experienced many lifetimes together, often times not as romantic partners, but as friends.
My advice to anyone in this type of soul connection relationship, is to be patient and be grateful for this person in your life. Who cares if you don't feel mushy-gushy? That stuff is for the movies and will have the opportunity to be there in time. What we're REALLY meant to feel is based upon respect and stability.
I see this type of soulmate relationship enter into a person's life often when a person has been in love with the more difficult karmic soul connection or twin flame connection. When it doesn't work out, the kindred spirit connection comes along AFTER the more difficult soul connection ended in their lives. What occurs, normally, is that the person will compare the feelings in the kindred spirit connection to the stronger, but more devastating feelings they felt for the twin flame or karmic connection who ran from them and broke their hearts.
My advice to you is this: No, you won't feel strong, burning flames of fury and passion for your kindred soul mate, or at least not immediately. Please let your karmic connection or twin flame connection go. Move on from them so that you can experience the more stable and grounding love your kindred spirit has to offer you. Stop comparing this type of soulmate connection to your twin flame or karmic soul mate who will never be with you. Stop calling too many psychics. Let go. Let Love. You'll be happier with the kindred spirit connection. No, you haven't "settled". You just stepped out of the movies and into reality. Your heart will thank you, and when you're finally healed, you'll feel happier with your kindred spirit connection.
The Mirror Soul Connection A little higher in the frequency of energy than the kindred spirit connection, this soulmate connection is powerful, loving, difficult, and lasts for many years, if not forever. However, I do see a lot of "coming and going" in this soulmate connection, as opposed to the more consistent types of soulmate connections shown above. When you meet a mirror soulmate, you will be VERY confused about why the person acts the way they do! Often times, you all will call me to say, "This person acts immensely interested and attracted to me, but then also acts like sometimes he cannot even stand to look at me. Sometimes he won't even look me in the eye! Why the push/pull or love/hate?"
Here is why: imagine waking up to look at yourself in the mirror every single morning. The reason I call this connection the "mirror" soul connection, is because the person will mirror you or you will mirror them. This is all well and good IF your mirror soulmate has learned most of his/her spiritual lessons and IF he/she has faced his/her life purpose. However, if there are things mirrored to them from you that perhaps they are not ready to face, which is more often the case than not, the result will be that they RUN from you initially. Granted, they do often run BACK to you a good bit of the time, but they sometimes run off into their corner to hide from you again, and again and again.
It's akin to looking into a mirror every single time they see you. They will see things in you that remind them of themselves years ago or right now. You could also be a projection of themselves in the future, and they are looking to you for support to become who they wish to be! The lesson in this is for them to feel a kinship with you that helps them get to know themselves better. It helps them face the issues they truly need to face in this lifetime.
The problem in this common type of soulmate, is that many of us aren't ready to face all of our issues right away. Therefore, being around our mirror soulmates makes us want to hide from them. If someone were walking around holding a mirror to your face of your own issues, and say you worked with them, lived with them, or saw them daily or weekly, how would you respond?
We as mirror soulmates are not aware that we're holding a mirror spiritually to our partners-- it's a very subconscious energetic effect. However, the person on the other end of this soul connection FEELS this. Asking them why they run does not often get you any answers, however, because they don't CONSCIOUSLY know why they're running. They only will feel this inexplicable need to RUN LIKE HELL from you! Then they'll feel compelled to miss you like hell and run right back.
The good news is that eventually, the do face up to their lessons mirrored by you, and they do eventually step up. My advice to anyone in this type of soul connection it to step back, let your loved one learn at his or her own pace, and be patient! These relationships do normally work out, over time.
No matter how often they run from you, I do (more times than not) see that they always run back. It may take a few days, a few weeks, or a few years, but they do come back, and often times, with their tail between their legs and ready to start in a more healthy dynamic.
The Twinflame Connection: This is THE most OBSOLETE form of soul connection out there. I feel like I am going against the grain in the spiritual community by saying this, not because I agree or disagree with other teachers, but I am the person many clients come to after they've called almost everyone out there and have been told the same thing. "He's your TWIN FLAME! He loves you! He'll be back! Wait!" Then finally, one day when the client is desperate for truth, lonely, broken hearted and broken in the bank account as well, I get the 2am call about the alleged twinflame. "Over 100 psychics a hotline have all said he is my twin flame and that he will be back! I know it's been five years since we've talked, but how could you be right? Everyone else says the opposite-- they all say he will be back!"
What I've seen about twin flames in my experience as a reader and spiritual teacher, is this: in close 16 years of service, do you know how many of you have met your twin flames? TEN. Ten of you have met your twinflames. Yes, I wrote it down. I wanted to remember it because it helps me to know more about the types of soulmates out there. I've only met TEN CLIENTS out there who have met their soul mates, that I can name. What is even more frightening is this: ONLY FIVE OF YOU (so far) have ENDED UP WITH YOUR TWIN FLAME!
The point for my post about soulmates, is this: how healthy is your soul connection? This isn't about what spiritual teachers and readers say will happen in the future, but more importantly, what are you doing in the HERE AND NOW? What might be equally important to our heart is LOGIC. It feels good in the moment to meet a twin flame, but the sad reality boils down to the fact that in most cases, they break our hearts.
I implore all of you out there who is waiting on a twin flame, search within yourself and ask, "Is this person really here for me?", "Am I REALLY in a real and practical relationship with this person?", "Is this really healthy?". I assure you that more times than not, the answer to these questions will be "no". Despite what your heart is telling you, the more important lesson, might be to let your twin flame go.